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Now's your chance to spend time with me.

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Deposit Policy

A deposit is required to get on the calendar. See "Cancellation Policy" below for my deposit refund policy.

Cancellation Policy

Travel Costs

Companion Cancellation

Client Cancellation
If the client or fan cancels a booking, deposits are not refundable but may be credited toward a future booking as follows:

How to Book a Date

I'm so excited to meet you!If you’ve made it this far, there’s a good chance you’ve been thinking about spending some time with your favorite Bear. I’m looking forward to meeting you too.I’ve made three hours my standard minimum booking because I’ve learned that neither chemistry nor connection responds particularly well to a stopwatch.I’m not very good at rushed experiences—and I don’t want to be.I need enough time with you for us to settle in, relax, laugh, flirt, talk, eat, explore, or simply enjoy being together without feeling like we’re racing the clock. Whether we’re escaping together for a vacation, enjoying an intimate dinner, tearing up the dance floor, relaxing at the spa, cuddling on the couch, or simply discovering what our chemistry feels like in person, my focus is on creating a genuine connection and an experience we both enjoy.Booking is simple. Here’s what I need from you.

Tell Me How Long You’d Like to See Me

My standard minimum booking is three hours.Longer dates are absolutely welcome—and often my favorites. If you’re considering an extended date, evening together, overnight, weekend, or travel booking, let me know when you reach out.Having the duration upfront allows me to confirm availability and properly reserve that time exclusively for you.

Send Me Your Preferred Date and Time

Send me your preferred date and time and I'll check the calendar!

How to Communicate

Communication Policy

I love hearing from fans, meeting new people, and getting to know the people I spend time with. I also want to set clear expectations about how and where to communicate with me.I’m a real person with a very full life. In addition to dates and travel, I have full-time professional responsibilities, content and porn shoots, appearances, personal commitments, and—occasionally—I even put the phone down and just live my life.So, while I want it to be easy to book time with me, my personal communication channels are not intended to provide unlimited access to me throughout the day.Clear boundaries make things easier, safer, and more enjoyable for everybody.

TL;DR: Fundamental Rules

Communication Preferences

I prefer:

• Telegram: @BigBear4Cuddles

• Signal: @BigBear4Cuddles.69

but can also receive texts at (570) 293-9071 or email at [email protected]

Booking Channels Are For Booking

Telegram, Signal, text messaging, and email are primarily booking and logistics channels.Please use them to:

These channels are not an invitation to an ongoing all-day conversation, and they are not appropriate places for sexting, explicit conversation, unsolicited sexual content, or repeated messages simply seeking my attention.I may be working, traveling, on another date, filming, sleeping, or simply unavailable when you message me. Please send your message and give me time to respond.Multiple follow-up messages, question marks, “hello??,” repeated calls, or contacting me on several platforms at once will not get a faster response.

Please Keep Booking Communication Professional

For mutual discretion, comfort, and safety, initial communication should remain respectful and focused on getting acquainted and arranging our time together.Do not send me sexually explicit, vulgar, graphic, threatening, or disrespectful messages through my booking channels.Do not send unsolicited explicit photographs or videos.Flirting is fine. Being playful is fine. Telling me that you’re excited to meet me is definitely fine.There is, however, a difference between flirting with someone and treating their inbox like an open sexting line.Explicit or abusive communication may result in the conversation ending and, when appropriate, an immediate and permanent block.

Want More Access to Your Bear?

There are absolutely ways to spend more time talking with me.They simply need to happen through the services I’ve created for that purpose rather than through my booking inbox.

Bearfriend Experience (BFE)

If what you really want is the feeling of having your Bear in your pocket throughout the day, ask me about my Virtual Bearfriend Experience.BFE can include things like regular personal messages, check-ins, photos, conversation, flirting, and more ongoing access to me for the period we arrange. It starts at $500/month and includes a weekly call and texts throughout the month.That is very different from simply having my Telegram or phone number after making an inquiry. Having my contact information does not automatically include ongoing daily access to me. If you want that experience, I’m happy to create it intentionally with you.

Sexting, Spicy Conversation & Video Calls

If you’re looking for sexting, spicy conversation, fantasy chat, or video time with me, I offer that through SextPanther.That platform is specifically designed for that kind of interaction and is the best place to reach me when you want something more playful or raunchy. We are not allowed to discuss real-life meets there, and I will have to block you if you do. SextPanther is for a virtual experience only.If what you want is a video call with your favorite Bear—or you’re feeling particularly mischievous—that’s where to find me.Please don’t attempt to move a SextPanther-style conversation into Telegram, Signal, text, or email to avoid using the service.

Fansite Messages

You are welcome to send me a quick message through my fansites, particularly if you’re already a subscriber or supporter there. We are not allowed to discuss meets there.Just understand that I generally check fansite messages about once a day.Also understand that I must block you if you discuss real-life meets or dating on any fansite platform.That makes them perfectly fine for:

They are not a way to reach me about a time-sensitive booking, and discussing bookings is against their terms of use.If you are trying to schedule time with me, use one of my designated booking contact methods instead.

Twitter, Instagram & Other Social Media

Please do not use social-media DMs to contact me about bookings.My Twitter/X, Instagram, and other public social accounts receive enough activity that their direct-message inboxes are intentionally configured and filtered in ways that mean I may never see your message at all.That includes messages saying:“I’ve been trying to reach you on Instagram!”I probably genuinely did not see it.Social media is where you can follow me, enjoy my content, interact publicly when appropriate, and keep up with what I’m doing.It is not my booking inbox.If you want to meet me, use the contact information provided on this website.

Response Times

I try to respond to legitimate booking inquiries as reasonably as I can, but I do not guarantee an immediate response.I have full-time work, existing dates, shoots, travel, content production, and a personal life. Sometimes I am simply unavailable.A slower response does not necessarily mean that:

Give me a reasonable opportunity to respond.If your message requires an answer by a particular deadline because of travel or scheduling, tell me that clearly in your original message.

Don't Platform-Hop to Get My Attention

Please choose an appropriate communication channel and use it.If you send me a Telegram message, then a Signal message, then a text, then an email, then a fansite message, and then an Instagram DM because I haven’t answered yet, that doesn't make the inquiry more urgent.It makes it considerably harder for me to manage the conversation.One clear message containing the information I need is almost always the fastest way to get an answer.

Privacy & Discretion

Please respect my privacy just as I will respect yours.Do not:

Mutual discretion is part of the trust required for me to feel comfortable meeting someone.

A Good Rule of Thumb

Before sending me a message, ask yourself what you're trying to do.Want to book a date?
Use my booking contact information.Need to coordinate an existing booking?
Telegram, Signal, text, or email is perfect.Want to send a quick fan message?
A fansite is fine, but remember that I generally check it only once a day.Want regular texts, pictures, attention, and a more boyfriend-style connection?
Ask about my Bearfriend Experience.Want sexting, spicy conversation, or a video call?
Come play with me on SextPanther.Want to DM me on Twitter or Instagram?
Don't. There is a very good chance I will never see it. Think of those sites as a billboard for me. You're trying to talk to a billboard.

Respect My Time and I'll Respect Yours

I don't want communication with me to feel cold or transactional. Quite the opposite.When we have plans together, I want to be present. I want us to have time to talk, laugh, flirt, connect, and actually enjoy one another rather than feeling rushed or distracted.One of the ways I'm able to give someone that attention is by not trying to maintain dozens of unlimited conversations between bookings.My booking channels get you onto my calendar.Our date is when you get me.And if you'd like more of your Bear between dates, I've made ways for us to do that too.